I recently created a new YouTube Channel, The New Paradigm Love Channel! This channel focuses on healing your painful relationships to create the high-level relationships and love. If you’ve struggled in relationships, feeling all alone and like you can’t be your true self, or are simply desiring more in your relationships, you are definitely in the right place!
You can check out the videos below, and I’d love to hear from you, as they resonate!
Also, if you looking to dive deeper into this work and want to clearly see the subconscious patterns that are causing your relationship pain and how to begin to heal these, apply to talk with Deb for her Complimentary 30-Minute Deep, Juicy Love Call here!
The Biggest Undiscussed Relationship Issue
What is this issue and how do we change this? In today’s video, Deb shares exactly this. And, you’ll definitely want to know what this is, so you can see if this is something you’re doing (You probably are!) and begin to shift this if this is the case.
How to End People Pleasing For Good
Are you a people-pleaser? In today’s video, Deb shares the one reframe that can change your relationship to people-pleasing forever.
What to Do When You Feel Like No One Cares About You
Do you often feel like no one cares about you? In today’s video, Deb shares what the root cause of this can be and what to do to start to shift this.
Why Fantasizing Creates Painful Relationships and Fantasizing vs. Visualizing
Do you find yourself fantasizing a lot, especially around relationships? In today’s Facebook Live, Deb shares how this can cause painful relationships and the important distinction between visualizing and fantasizing.
Why Being Your True Self Can’t Scare Someone Away
Do you think only parts of yourself are lovable in your relationships? With this, do you only bring certain parts forward and do you avoid difficult conversations and instead try to pretend everything is okay, even when it isn’t? In today’s Facebook Live, Deb shares why you can’t scare someone away being your true self, the importance of this and ways to bring more of your true self forward in all aspects of your relationships.
What to Do If You’re Not Getting Along with Your Partner
Are you finding yourself not getting along with your partner, or even, that there’s something bothering you that they’re doing? In today’s video, Deb shares one piece that causes this and how to begin to change this for good.
How to Know If You’re Settling Vs. Compromising
Questioning if you’re settling or just compromising in your relationship? In today’s video, Deb shares some important questions and awarenesses that will help you get clarity on this in your relationship.
A Fresh Perspective If You Keep Attracting the Wrong Partner
Have you found yourself attracting the wrong person or partner over and over in your relationships? In today’s video, Deb shares a new way to look at this to give hope and understand how this is actually working for you.
Has Pain Become Normal in Your Relationships
Has pain subconsciously become normal in your relationships? In today’s video, Deb shares why this can happen and how we are subconsciously conditioned to seek painful relationships.
Why Men Disappear
Has a man ghosted or left you? In today’s video, Deb talks about this to understand the male perspective as well as sharing what what can cause this and how to begin to shift this.
How to Get An Unattainable Guy
Have you found yourself desiring an unattainable guy? In today’s video, Deb shares two unique perspectives about this to get you looking at this in a different way as well as how to begin to shift this.
Leaving When You Love Someone But It Isn’t Working
Are you with someone you love, but something about the relationship, or maybe even, the relationship as a whole, isn’t working? In today’s video, Deb talks about why we attract this type of relationship to begin with and what we can do to attract the relationship we are truly desiring.
How to Stop Attracting Partners Who Lie
Have you attracted a partner who lies? In today’s video, Deb shares why this happens and how to begin to change this from two different angles.
An Important Question to Ask Yourself in Putting an End to Painful Relationships
In this Facebook Live, Deb shares an important awareness in what was causing painful relationships in her life and one question you need to ask yourself to start to shift this.
The Real Reason Your Relationships Don’t Always Work Out
There’s an undiscussed reason why relationships often don’t work out, and if you’ve found yourself struggling in relationship after relationship, thinking every time is going to be different, you need to know this. In today’s video and previous Facebook Live, Deb shares this and what you need to do if this keeps happening to you.
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Are you in a relationship right now that you’re questioning? In today’s video, Deb walks you through how to get the clarity you need to decide what you should do.
Why You Don’t Have to Give Everyone a Chance
Do you often give everyone a second chance and the benefit of the doubt? In today’s video, Deb talks about why we do this and how this hurts us in the long run, when we are looking to meet the one.
The Myth About There Being No Good Guys Out There
Do you believe that there are no good guys out there? In today’s video, Deb shares what needs to change to start to shift this.
Is It Wrong to Date Someone Who’s Divorced?
Is it wrong to date someone who’s divorced? In today’s video, Deb answers this question from two different vantage points to help you to know what’s true for you.
What to Do When A Guy Pulls Away
Were you dating or with someone and then they pulled away, maybe unexpectedly? In today’s video, Deb shares what to do when this happens, including tools to help you to feel less anxious.
Will He Come Back?
Are you wanting to know if someone is going to come back in your life? In today’s video, Deb offers a unique perspective on this question as well as looking at why we ask this and what we can do to start to feel more in control in our lives.
What to Do If You’re Feeling Lonely
Are you feeling lonely, or even, finding yourself alone right now? In today’s video, Deb discusses the most important piece to shift this and how to begin to do this.
What to Do When You’re Scared to Speak Your Truth
Are you scared to speak your truth? In today’s video, Deb talks about what you can do when you’re feeling challenged with this to start to shift this for good to attract a partner who values all of you.
What to Do If You’re Accepting Crumbs in Your Relationship
Do you find yourself accepting less than you desire and deserve in your relationships? In today’s video, Deb shares awarenesses and tools to better understand and change this.
Will I Ever Get Relationships Right?
Have you ever had the thought that you might never get love and relationships right? In today’s video, Deb shares what this is really about and what you can do to start to get all of your relationships right.
The Biggest Thing You Can Do If People Keep Leaving You
Do you find that people keep leaving in your relationships? In today’s video, Deb talks about the biggest issue we have when this happens and how to begin to change this.
Why We Don’t Always Go For It
Do you have a dream or desire that you’re not pursuing? In today’s video, Deb shares why this is and what to do to change this.
The #1 Thing You Need to Know If People Keep Leaving You
Do you find yourself getting left over and over again in relationship? In today’s video, Deb talks about #1 thing you need to know if this keeps happening and one thing you can do to start to change this.
Why Your Relationships Never Work Out
Do you find yourself in relationships that never work out? In today’s video, Deb discusses why this is and how to begin to change it.
Why You Feel Alone in Your Relationships
Do you feel alone, and even, find yourself alone, whether you’re in a relationship or not? In today’s video, Deb discusses why this is and what to do about it to start to shift it.
Why People Really Leave in Relationships
Do you find you’re often being left in relationships? What if you could change this for good? In today’s video, Deb discusses why people really leave and what to do to start to shift this.
When You Can’t Stop Fighting in Your Relationship
Do you find yourself constantly fighting with a partner or loved one? In today’s video, Deb discusses how to stop this vicious cycle when it occurs.
What to Do When You’re Overwhelmed
Are you feeling overwhelmed? In today’s video, Deb shares why this is and what to do to begin to shift this, including powerful awarenesses, practices and tools.
What to Do When You’re Upset
Are you finding yourself upset? Does this happen often and do you find that you’re even getting upset about “little things”? In today’s video, Deb talks about why this is and what to do about this to start to shift this.
How to Forgive Someone
Is there someone in your life that has caused you a lot of pain? Alternatively, are you struggling in many of your relationships? This can be a sign that we need to forgive someone in our life. In today’s video, Deb talks about why this is important and how to do this.
How to Heal Your Abandonment Pattern
As a child, did you experience some kind of abandonment? This could have been from having physically or emotionally unavailable parents, whether from divorce, loss, addiction or even them working a lot, or from being left or put up for adoption, among other things. With this, are you struggling in your current life and relationships because of this? In today’s video, Deb shares tools for healing your abandonment pattern, as while we can be conditioned to think we just need to manage this pattern, it is actually possible to heal it fully.
What to Do When You Have Anxiety Waiting for a Decision
Are you feeling anxiety waiting for the election results or another decision? In today’s video, Deb shares an important awareness on what really causes this and on what you can do to feel more calm, relaxed and in control.
How to Get What You Want
Do you struggle to get what you want? In today’s video, Deb walks you through how to shift this and how we are always getting what we want, even when we’re not.
How to Heal Through Grief
At some point or another, we all go through grief. But, how do we heal through it and turn grief into light? In today’s video, Deb shares how she healed through the loss of her mom, creating a new connection with her after her passing.
Why Being Abandoned Is A Lie
When we are abandoned, it can be easy to stay in this story and tell ourselves this over and over. In today’s video, Deb discusses why this is a lie, how we can heal this pattern for good and if healing your abandonment pattern means you’ll never be abandoned again.
What Jealousy Is Really All About
Do you often find yourself in situations where others are jealous of you? In today’s video, Deb shares what this is really about as well as ways to begin to stop having jealousy showing up in your life and hurting your relationships.
How to Heal from Being Ghosted
Have you been ghosted recently? Are you hurting from this? In today’s video, Deb shares some important awarenesses, not only to feel better quickly, but to heal this in the long run.
Do We Need Pain for Growth and Healing?
As humans, we tend to be wired to change only when something is painful or going wrong? But, is this something we actually need to change? In today’s video, Deb shares her thoughts on this and a tool to create what you want without pain.
Why There Are No Quick Fixes
In life, understandably, we want to achieve our goals as quickly as possible. In today’s video, Deb shares why there really are no quick fixes, but how you can create your reality quicker.
Why You Can’t Stop Fighting
There’s so much fighting in the world right now. What is this really about? In today’s video, Deb shares this as well as ways to connect deeper in your relationships as well as with strangers. If you find yourself fighting a lot, this video is a must-see.
How to Let Go When Someone Mistreats You
Do you find yourself getting stuck, or even worse, stewing, when someone mistreats you? In today’s video, Deb discusses how to let go of this to feel better and more present.
When You’ve Changed and Everything Else is Still the Same
Have you made a change in your life, and yet, everything (and everyone!) has stayed the same? In today’s video, Deb shares a fresh perspective and discusses how to work through this.
How to Stop Doing What Others Want You to
Do you often find that others are in charge of your life? In today’s video, Deb shares how this happens, the cost of this to you and some various ways to begin to shift this.
How to Stop Letting Others Control How You Feel
Do you find that your feelings are often controlled by what others do and don’t do? In today’s video, Deb shares how to stop letting others control your feelings, including sharing a variety of tools to help you to ground into you and to choose you at all times.
Why Changes We Make Don’t Always Work
Often times, we can go to make a change and then nothing seems to actually change for us. Why is this? In today’s video, Deb shares the reasons for this as well as some tools to start to identify and change the outcomes you’re experiencing.
Why Something Isn’t Working for You
Is something in your life not working for you and you feel like you’ve tried everything? In today’s video, Deb shares why this and what to do to begin to shift this.
How to Find Inner Calm
Struggling to find inner calm in your life? In today’s video, Deb shares a variety of tools for more calm and peace in your life to help you to be in calm, no matter what’s occurring in our world.
The Real Cause of Drama
Do you attract or find yourself around a lot of drama? In today’s video, Deb discusses the real cause of drama and what needs to happen to begin to eliminate this from your life.
How to Manage Your Energy
In today’s world (and always), it’s important that we notice how we’re spending our time, who we’re spending it with and how all of these factors make us feel. On today’s video, Deb highlights three key things you may be doing that may be depleting your time and energy and how to start to change these for more energy in your life.
What to Do When You Don’t Know Who to Vote For
Struggling with who to vote for and what to believe? In today’s video, Deb shares some strong decision-making tools to help you determine what’s true for you, finishing with an awareness that’s important to remember regarding politics and life.
What to Do When You Have Political Differences with Your Partner
With this being an election year, these times can be challenging for our relationships. In today’s video, Deb discusses what you can do if your political differences are different from your partner’s.
How to Be Happy During Challenging Times
During challenging times, it can be hard to be happy. But, it doesn’t have to be this way. In today’s video, Deb shares some important pieces to be aware of in being happy no matter what is occurring in your world.
How to Tune Into Your Intuition
We tend to think only certain people are intuitive, but the truth of the matter is we’re all intuitive, and yet, most of us have subconsciously shut this down. In today’s video, Deb talks about how this happens, how to open to it more and pitfalls that can occur as we’re learning how to tune into our intuition.
Why There Are No Wrong Decisions
It can be easy to think we need to make the right or perfect decision on something. But, what if there actually are no wrong decisions? In today’s video, Deb shares a soul perspective on why this is and how to bring this concept into your own life.
Can You Ever Fully Heal?
Can we ever fully heal ourselves or will we be in a constant never-ending journey with this? In today’s video, Deb addresses and answers this question from many angles, sharing the soul’s perspective on getting the parents we did and fully healing.
How to Do Inner Child Work
We all have a little girl or boy that lives inside of us. She/he had dreams, desires and believed anything was possible. Unfortunately, in the environment many of us grew up in, we subconsciously thought we had to abandon ourselves to ensure we were loved and not left. In doing this, though, this can create long-term anxiety and depression, among other things. In today’s video, Deb talks further about why this tool is so important as well as sharing how to begin to work with your inner child, including addressing the pitfalls that can come up when we’re first starting.
What to Do When You’re Uncomfortable
Do you find that you’re uncomfortable a lot? When this occurs, what do you do with it? In today’s video, Deb discusses how to shift this and the importance of this in returning to our truth and attracting abundance.
What to Do When You Can’t Stop Thinking of Someone
Having a hard time getting someone out of your head? In today’s video, Deb discusses the childhood cause and present-day reason for this and shares how to begin shifting it.
How to Make Aligned Decisions
Do you struggle making decisions for yourself? What about making aligned decisions? In today’s video, Deb shares many awarenesses, practices and tools that will help you to make aligned choices in real-time.
Why We’re Never Satisfied
Do you feel like, no matter what you do, you’re never satisfied? In today’s video, Deb talks about why this is along with sharing some new concepts and practices to begin to shift this.
What to Do When Life Feels Hard
Does life feel hard right now? In today’s video, Deb shares a variety of awarenesses, tools and practices to shift this and create more ease.
What to Do When the Future Feels Unsafe
Does your future feel unsafe or uncertain? In today’s video, Deb shares a variety of tools, practices and reframes to help you to shift this in your life, no matter what’s happening in our world.
Why Our Timing is Never Off
Do you feel like things could have been different in one of your relationships? Do you feel like your timing is always off, or even that, you always run out of time? In today’s video, Deb shares some powerful spiritual truths to reframe this.
What to Do When Things Aren’t Going Your Way
Does it feel like things aren’t going your way? In today’s video, Deb talks about why this is, how we can get in a rut around this and how to begin to shift this for things to actually start going our way.
How to Know If Someone is The One
Are you struggling with knowing if someone is (or isn’t) the one for you? In today’s video, Deb shares a variety of tools and provides several ways to help you to know if someone is or isn’t right for you.
Why You Have Trouble in Love
Do you feel like you always are having trouble in love? In today’s video, Deb talks about why, what you can do about it + a reframe on it actually being an issue at all.
How to Stop Judging Yourself and Others
Do you often find yourself judging yourself or another? In today’s video, Deb talks about what judgment really is and how to start to heal it and have more compassion for you and others.
What to Do When You’re Feeling Indifferent
Are you feeling indifferent because of your job or relationship or just because of what’s happening in your life and our world? In today’s video, Deb talks about what to do when you’re feeling indifferent to start feeling motivated again.
How to Take Control of Your Life
Do you often feel like you’re being pulled or dragged by life and you have little control of your reality? In today’s video, Deb talks about where this pattern begins and how to begin to shift it to take more control of your life.
What to Do When You’re Not Motivated to Date
Are you wanting a partner, but not feeling motivated to date? In today’s video, Deb talks about one cause of this and what to do to shift this.
How to Stop Ruminating, Obsessing and Overanalyzing
Do you find yourself ruminating, obsessing and overanalyzing a lot? In today’s video, Deb discusses how this pattern starts, and with this, the cause of it. She then shares what to do about it to begin to shift it and get some (serious!) relief from it.
How to Wake Up
What is waking up and why is it important? In today’s video, Deb shares fresh consciousness perspectives and some of the biggest pieces that can help us to wake up to the idea that we are always creating our reality. With this, in recognizing this and in doing so, we begin to have more control of our world.
How to Be the Center of Your Own Life
Do you feel like your life revolves around everyone else? Are you the center of your life and focus? In today’s video, Deb discusses why this occurs in the first place and how to shift this, if you feel like you’re never the main focus.
Three Tools to Know You Are Getting Closer to Your Goals
Is there a goal you have that it feels like, no matter what you do, nothing is working? In today’s video, Deb shares several tools to shift this mindset to be able to honor how far you’ve come, while getting even closer to your goals.
How to Motivate Yourself
Do you ever have moments where you need to get something down, but you don’t feel like doing anything? In today’s video, Deb discusses one potential cause from childhood for this lack of motivation along with several tools and processes you can use to change this.
How to Stop Doubting Yourself
Do you struggle with self-doubt? In today’s video, Deb talks about why this happens along with giving you several exercises to change this.
How to Trust Yourself
How do we trust ourselves and our decisions and decide what’s right for us, even when it’s hard? In today’s video, Deb talks about the patterns that can get in the way of this, not only from our childhood, but our present day, while sharing several tools that can help you to make decisions, even, and really, especially, when they’re hard, and as part of this, how to trust yourself more.
How to Trust the Timing
Do you find yourself wishing something would have already happened for you? In today’s video, Deb discusses how to trust the timing, including the soul’s perspective on timing and what to do if you feel frustrated that something hasn’t already happened.
How to Trust That Everything is Working Out
Do you feel like life never works out for you? In today’s video, Deb talks about how to shift this, including how to see challenging or negative moments in our lives from a positive perspective.
Three Steps If You’ve Tried Everything and Nothing’s Working
Do you feel like you’ve tried everything and yet nothing’s working? In today’s video, Deb talks about how to shift this and get the clarity you need to move forward.
How to Heal Yourself
When challenging things happen to us, this can be a sign that there is something within us needing healing. In today’s video, Deb shares a simple tool to help us begin to heal ourselves, so we don’t keep repeating the same patterns over and over.
How to Be Real with Yourself
Do you want to have more real relationships? This first starts with you. In today’s video, Deb discusses the importance of this, including how to do this with yourself and in your relationships along with the impact it’s having on your relationships letting things slide and not being real.
How to Be Present
There’s so much talk about living in the present moment, but what stops us from doing this and what tools can we use to truly shift this? In today’s video, Deb shares how to become more present and create what you’re actually desiring in your life.
What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do
Do you ever find yourself stuck and feel like you don’t know what to do? In today’s video, Deb discusses how this gets rooted in in the first place and one quick (and powerful!) tool that can get you moving forward.
How to Feel Your Feelings
Do you struggle feeling your feelings and want to cultivate or strengthen your practice around this? In today’s video, Deb talks about why this is so important, and how to do this, including overcoming many of the pitfalls we can experience when we’re first starting this as a practice.
How to Not Taking Things Personally
Do you often take things personally in your life? Here’s what you need to know to shift it.
Why You’re Alone and What to Do to Begin to Shift This
In today’s video, we talk about how being alone gets rooted in our childhoods and what to do to start to shift this.
Living on a Prayer: Taking Faith-Based Action
When we’re wanting something in our lives and yet it hasn’t happened yet, it can be hard to continue to take action on it. In today’s video, Deb looks at what causes this and what you can do to create the things you’re wanting in your life.
Self-Care for Abandonment Issues
In today’s video, Deb discusses the importance of self-care when we feel abandoned in some way, whether it’s through a break-up, rejection, and/or feeling hurt or invisible. With this, she shares tools to start to change this.
How to Stop Bad Things from Happening to You
How do we stop bad or negative things from happening to us? In today’s video, Deb shares a fresh perspective on why this is happening and how to start to shift this.
How to Go All-In On Your Life
Often in life, it can be easy to let go of things you want in your life, and instead, you find yourself living someone else’s life or find yourself having regrets later on. In today’s video, Deb talks about why we’re often primed for this in the first place, sharing tools on how to prevent this to ensure you stay on track to pursuing your dreams and desires, instead of someone else’s.
What to Do When Life is Feeling Flat
In today’s video, Deb describes why life can feel flat and what to do about it to begin living life in color.
Are You Being Pulled By Life or Are You Creating It?
Many times, we subconsciously let circumstances and other people rule our lives. In today’s video, Deb talks about why this is and how to begin to change this to actually choose and create your life.
How to Turn On Your Inner Asshole Guy Detector and Stop Attracting These Types of Guys
Do you often attract jerks in your life and wish this was different? What if you could not only determine if they were nice early on, but also had a way to start specifying what it was that you actually wanted, so you could stop attracting these types of guys altogether? In today’s video, Deb walks you through her “inner-asshole detection exercise” and one tool you can use to stop attracting these types of guys.
How to Trust That You Will Meet the One
Scared you’ll be single for the rest of your life? Here’s why and how to change this.
The Art of Being Single
Is there an art to being single? If you’ve been single for a long time, why is that and is this a bad thing? In today’s video, Deb talks about this, including how we can heal any judgments we have around being single.
What to Do When You Find Yourself Buying Into Others’ Opinions of You and For You
Do you ever find yourself buying into another’s opinion of you (or for you) and taking it personally? Here’s why that happens and what to do to start to change it.
How to Use Your Triggers in Relationships to Meet Your Person or Deepen Your Relationship
In today’s video, Deb talks about how to use your triggers and everything that occurs in your relationships, including sharing a personal story, to meet your partner and/or deepen your relationship.
What to Do When You Find Yourself Accepting Crumbs in Your Relationship and Life
Not getting what you want in your relationships and life? In today’s video, Deb talks about why this is and some steps you can take to begin to change it.
How Doing It All Yourself Can Block Love in a Relationship or a Relationship Altogether
In today’s video, Deb talks about how the belief and need to do it all ourselves can block love in your relationship or a relationship altogether, why this is and several practices to begin to shift this quickly.
The Practice of Being Okay Being Single and How to Begin to Shift This
Why aren’t we really okay with being single and how do we start to shift this in our lives? In today’s video, Deb addresses these and shares some powerful awarenesses and practices you can do to change this.
Why It Can Take Longer to Get Over Someone and How to Use This for Your Benefit
In today’s video, Deb shares why it can take longer to get over someone and the biggest practice you can do to start to move past it.
How Owning Your Needs Can Help Minimize (And Eliminate) Long-Term Anxiety to Feel More Fulfilled
Have you struggled with anxiety over time? Understanding and mindfully owning your needs can help you to significantly shift your anxiety levels, feel less alone and live a more fulfilled and calm life, whether you suffer from anxiety or not. It can also help you to know how to take care of yourself when you’re feeling triggered in your relationships, and even, to prevent many triggers all together because of doing this. In today’s video, Deb walks you through how to do this and why this is so important.
Three Awarenesses Around Competition (+ Jealousy) That You Haven’t Thought of To Change It For Good
Ever feel competitive (or jealous) where it’s not working for you? Would you like to change this? In this video, Deb shares three awarenesses that can help you to shift these for good.
Why We Can Need Things to Be Perfect and What to Do About It to Change This
In today’s video, we talk about where our need to have things perfect stems from and how to begin to shift this.
How to Give Yourself Closure When You Don’t Get It From Your Ex
Needing closure from an ex and not getting it? Here’s why you need it and how to give it to yourself.
Why You Shouldn’t Try to Protect Yourself from Getting Hurt in Your Relationships
In today’s video, we talk about why you shouldn’t try to prevent getting hurt and a key tool that can help shift getting hurt in your relationships for good.
Waking Up with Anxiety – An Awareness You May Not Have Heard + How to Shift How You Start Your Day
Do you often find yourself waking up with anxiety? Here’s what causes it and what to do about it, so your day isn’t filled with anxiety.
What to Do When You Don’t Feel Prioritized in Your Relationships
Not feeling prioritized in your relationship(s)? Here’s why and what you can do about it.
How to Let Go of Someone or Something in Your Life
In today’s video, Deb talks about what can cause us to have trouble letting go and what to do about this to start to shift it.
How to Stop Feeling Jealous of Others and Their Relationships
Do you often feel jealous of others and/or their relationships? Here’s why and what you can do to start to change this and have what they have.
What to Do When the Same Issue Keeps Happening Over and Over and Nothing’s Working
In today’s video, Deb talks about why you may be experiencing the same issue over and over again and what to do about it.
What to Do When You’re Feeling Anxious or Alone in Your Relationship or Life
Do you often feeling anxious and/or alone in your relationships or life? Do you find yourself feeling particularly alone in these challenging times? Here’s one tool that you can use that will significantly rewire this in every aspect of your life the more you use it.
Why You May Be Having Trouble Having a Long-Term Relationship
In today’s video, Deb discusses why we can have trouble having long-term relationships and three powerful tools to begin to change this.